What Haven’t You Changed?

Rather than be predictable and ask you what you are thankful for this week, I thought I’d ask you a different question.

But first, let me tell you a story.

I’m a good amateur cook and baker. I like to cook dessert. I don’t need dessert. I like dessert.

Last week, we had dinner with friends. I wanted to make a low-carb version of a dessert we’d had in Israel. It was a chocolate log with nuts. It was delicious! I knew I could de-carb it, if I could find a recipe.

Sure enough, it’s called a chocolate salami. The parve (non-dairy) version is sort-of low carb. I found a recipe that suggested I could use twice the nuts if I wanted it gluten-free.

I happily substituted erythritol for the sugar, and chocolate sweetened with stevia for the regular chocolate. I then followed the directions. Well, the way I follow directions when I bake. Even the first time I make a dessert. If you read the recipe, note how it says to refrigerate the chocolate. Note that it doesn’t say when to take it out of the refrigerator.

When Mark went to cut it after dinner, it was still hard as a rock. It tasted great—not as sweet as what we’d had in Israel, but quite good. It wasn’t as sweet because the erythritol is not as sweet as sugar, and the chocolate I used was darker than semi-sweet chocolate.

On the way home, Mark asked me, “What haven‘t you changed?”

He knows me. He knows I am fearless when it comes to recipes and changing things. I knew we already had a dessert for dinner. This was a backup dessert. The risk was low.

We both cracked up. I laughed so hard, I had trouble breathing.

It’s a good question. What haven’t you changed?

If you are transitioning to agile, you should read Ron Jeffries’ We Tried Baseball and it Didn’t Work. That’s an example/allegory of a team that changed everything and claimed agile didn’t work for them.

When you change something, you want to consider changing one thing at a time, getting some feedback about that one thing, and then seeing what the results are. In the dessert I made, I was pretty sure what the results would be. I was willing to take the risks.

If you are changing your projects at work, do you really want to change things randomly, when you don’t have experience? I have 10 years of experience baking low carb.

If you are taking medicine, would you change things without talking to your doctor? I hope not.

I change my workouts, because I have many years of experience working out and the risk is low. I change recipes because I have many years of experience cooking and baking and the risk is low.

I don’t change things when the risk is high and I have little to no experience.

We left the chocolate salami out of the refrigerator overnight and served it to friends the following evening. Mark was able to cut it easily. I still need to work with the recipe. It needs fewer nuts, and a touch more sweetness. I’ll continue experimenting. But, maybe after the holidays. I do not need more dessert for a while. No, no, no dessert for me. (Yes, I know Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I just made two low-carb desserts. After Thanksgiving.)

When you think about changing things, consider your context. Consider what support you need for your change. Be fearless for your change. Be strong for your change. You can certainly be adventurous for your change. And, decide when your change or changes are too much, when they make your product not what you wanted. I still had a chocolate salami. It was a low carb chocolate salami. Anyone could identify it as such. When you change things, is your change  still identifiable?

My dear adaptable problem solvers, the question this week is: What haven’t you changed?

Have a great Thanksgiving. I hope all your desserts are delicious and identifiable. And, do think about what you are grateful and thankful for. I am thankful for you, my dear readers.

Who Have You Connected With Today?

In June of 1973, I had freshman orientation at the University of Vermont. I met P during that weekend. We hit it off, laughing together, enjoying the weekend. We had similar senses of humor. We thought some of the questions our fellow freshmen had were nuts.

P was from a small town in Vermont. I was from a larger, but small-town thinking city in Massachusetts. It didn’t matter. We were similar in ways that counted.

In the fall, we discovered that we were in the same dorm. Same bio and chem classes, too. We weren’t lab partners, but we discussed the merits of rat dissection, our chem lab write ups, and, of course, our boyfriends, and lack thereof. Or, if we had them (for two weeks), how goofy they were. We drank together at downtown bars in Burlington, because it was legal then for 18-year-olds to drink. We had a blast.

P did well in her coursework. She studied physical therapy. I was, ahem, pre-med. That lasted all of six weeks, when I got C’s on my first hourly exams in bio and chem. I clearly was not going to med school. Now what? P was one of the friends who listened to me try on a different major every week for the next year or so. (It took me a while to decide on Computer Science.)

We remained friends throughout our four years of undergraduate school. I was a bridesmaid at her wedding. We have been there for our children’s celebrations and our respective difficulties. When Mark and I went to Vermont for skiing, we would visit. Sometimes, I was the only visitor, if the skiing was too good because I stopped skiing years ago. Sometimes, we all got together, including the children and husbands.

We connected via chance. We stayed connected through common interests and a wacky sense of humor through school. We remained connected these almost-40 years since we graduated because we care about each other.

We all need connection. We connect and stay connected with people because they mean something to us.

Now, we “connect” with people for business. That is one kind of connection. If we are lucky, that business connection evolves into something deeper.

When we connect with people as humans, as real people, not because we need them for something, but because they mean something to us, we have that authentic connection that we each crave.

We each have our own way of connecting. You might do it differently now than you did at 18. You might do it in a similar way. In order to adapt, to grow, to lead, to solve problems in your context, you need to connect. Without connection, without reaching from your core to the core of another human being, we have no authenticity, and little value. We have no vulnerability.

That’s what makes real connection so difficult. Connecting, creating a real connection, is an act of vulnerability.

Go ahead and connect or reconnect with someone today. See what happens when you bring your full self to the connection.

Who are you offering the gift of your vulnerability, of your authenticity? Real connection is a gift. Offer it wisely.

Dear adaptable problem solvers, this is your question of the week: who have you connected with today?

Who Is Driving Your Bus?

I taught a Geographically Distributed Agile Teams workshop in Israel this week. During the simulation, the “tester”  led the “developer”: as in “Let’s do this,” “Here’s what done means,” “ We should do it this way.”

Someone commented that this was “Test(er)-Driven Development.” I laughed.

Then I realized. Aside from “back seat drivers,” this happens all over our organizations. The people at the “end” of the process might drive the front of the process. Here are two more examples.

  • Who decides where people sit in your organization? Do the managers, the teams, or the facilities people? Who decides the desks or the cube configurations? This is Facilities-Led Architectural Decisions. Why? because you will get Conway’s Law: The architecture/design of the product will follow where people sit.
  •  Who decides what to work on? Is it the product owner or the product manager? Or, do you have emergency projects/fixes because no one manages the project portfolio? Or, does everyone decide what to do on their own, because of the rampant multitasking? If no manager makes a decision which project is #1, and says, “Every project is #1, then every person decides him or herself. That means you decide. I decide. It doesn’t matter what our job titles are. We decide. We decide the strategy for the organization. This is Bottom-Up Strategic Decision Making.

We can decide we want to do this. Is Tester-Driven Development wrong? I was a tester like that, many years ago. I made the product better when I asked questions. I didn’t tell that developer what to do or how to do it. But the developer was stuck in his vision of the product. When I asked questions and said things such as, “It doesn’t pass the commercial acceptance tests. I cannot imagine our customers will be happy. Let’s decide on our release criteria as an organization,” I made the conversation involve more than just the developer and me. We ended up with a product that was much better than the one we started with.

My dear adaptable problem solvers, the question of the week this week is “Who is driving your bus?” It might not be the person you think it is.

Are You Solving Problems MacGyver-Style?

I saw this post and video last week: I’ve fallen. Now how do I get up? Scroll down to the video where the therapist discusses all the ways you can get up from the floor. I have to admit, I had no idea I should leave my head down when I got up from the floor. If you don’t know about MacGyver, because you missed that TV series, here’s the link to all things MacGyver.

What I really liked about this video was her approach to using everyday objects and not just stopping at the rule of three. The therapist had a total of 10 alternatives, plus a couple of sub-alternatives for getting up after a fall.

When we solve problems at work, do we think of 10 alternatives? Do we need to? We might not need 10 alternatives, but considering what we can do to solve problems that is:

  • Simple
  • Uses everyday objects
  • Allows us freedom of movement
  • Allows us independence from commercial frameworks
  • Allows us to rescue ourselves

regardless of the problem might be a valuable skill.

As a dizzy broad (vertigo sufferer), I have a tendency to land on the floor. I try to prevent falls with my gym workouts to build strength, and with gait training to stand and walk correctly. However, I have been known to land on the floor wondering, “How the heck did I get here?” I wait for the neurons to settle down, and then I get back up.  I now have many ways to get back up.

We can apply MacGyver-style problem solving to debugging, to project management, to testing, to anything that requires managing risk and solving problems.

If you want to apply it to debugging, you might want to pair first, rather than instrument your code. Or, talk to the duck. (If you have not read that entire post, you should. If you are like me, you will laugh out loud.) Once you’ve talked to the duck or paired, you can ask your question on one of the stack exchanges. But, I bet just by talking to the duck, you will have solved your problem. It’s the articulation of the problem that helps.

If you want to apply MacGyver-style problem solving to design, you can do what I did a long time ago with a team. We animated a potential design. We had people literally walk through the design. We estimated the timing of what we thought the design would be, and asked people to step forward in sequence and synchronization to see if the design would work. Yes, I was the one with the clipboard and the whistle. No surprise there. (This was way before agile.) We determined in about 15 minutes that the design would not work as originally planned, but because everyone was involved, we had about 15 more great ideas about what to do instead to improve the design.  And, we had fun.

Problem solving does not have to be formal. It does not have to be inside of a framework. It can be simple and fun. You can show your sense of humor. MacGyver got into scrapes, but he always got out, and he had fun doing it. Well, it seemed to me that he had fun doing it. I certainly had fun watching.

Dear adaptable problem solvers, this is your question of the week: Are you solving problems MacGyver-style?

Who Is Responsible for Your Career?

You are Responsible for Own CareerI’m in a workshop this week. There are signs all over, that say, “You are responsible for your own career.”

It’s true. Each of us is responsible for our own careers.

Do you act that way?

If you work for an organization, do you push for one-on-ones each week with your manager, and discuss your career, every week with your manager? If so, great. If not, why not? What’s stopping you?

If you work for yourself, how often do you reflect on your work?

For each of us:

  • How often do you take stock of what you do, so you don’t have the same year of experience every year?
  • How often do you say, “It’s time to stop doing this work. It’s time to work towards that kind of work.”
  • How often do you say, “I want to offer this thing by that time. How will I get there?”

You do it differently when you are an employee than when you are an entrepreneur. But you do it, regardless of your current role. And the closer you are to “retirement?” You really better start thinking about this.

Just because you stop working for a big company with benefits doesn’t mean you will stop working.  You might choose to stop working for money. (Then again, you might not!) But, you need to keep thinking. If you stop thinking, if you stop being intellectually challenged and you might die before your time. Your brain keeps growing and changing until the day you die. That’s what neuroplasticity is all about.

It’s very easy to let the day-to-day responsibility of the house, the spouse, the kids, and the job stop us from thinking about this greater responsibility, our careers.

Maybe you want to think about your life, instead.

What if I said, “You are responsible for your life?” Would that change how you think about this question?

You are. You are responsible for your career. You are responsible for your life. Ain’t it great? Does that fill your heart with dread or with possibility?

To me, it’s full of possibility. It means I can experiment. I can try something, get a little feedback, learn from it and continue. I might do the same thing, modify it, or do something else. I have the responsibility for my life to learn.

Dear adaptable problem solvers, this is your question of the week: Who is responsible for your career?

How Do You See Yourself?

Many people see themselves as their titles. “I’m a tester or developer or project manager or business analyst.”

You are not your role. You are not your title.

You are your values, your mission. You are most definitely not the number of people in your organization. You’ve heard managers say, “I have xx or xxx people in my organization,” right? That makes me nuts. What, these people don’t have value if they don’t have people in their organizations?

Maybe not. Here’s a thought: What kind of value do they have, if they have to describe themselves based on the number of people in their organizations? What happens if you become unemployed?

The first time I was laid off, I was confused. Could I still call myself a software developer if I wasn’t working? Of course I could. That was my profession, even if I didn’t have a job. This goes to show you how your self-esteem takes a hit when you lose a job, even if you are great and the company can’t afford to pay you.

Think about how you provide value.

I work hard to simplify ideas in my writing and speaking, so people can solve problems better in their projects, in their management. As the technical editor for agileconnection.com, I’ve been doing that as a writing coach for the past three-plus years.

You do something else.

I used to say I was a management consultant. I still say that, but I have to explain what I do as a consultant or coach. Just saying I consult or coach is not enough. What I say on twitter is that I help managers and leaders do reasonable things at work.

Just saying you test or manage or develop or whatever is not enough. Once you start talking about your values, you change the game. You make the conversation engaging, not just to the other person, but to yourself.

If you are hiring, you set the stage for cultural fit. If you are looking for a job, wow. How do you think you look to a potential employer? You look like someone who really knows what they have to offer.

If you have not considered this question yet, take some time and consider it. You get no points for a fast answer. You do get points for thinking and considering what your values are.

So, my dear adaptable problem-solvers, this week’s question of the week is: How do you see yourself?

What Questions Do You Use to Solve Problems?

When you solve problems, do you find that you start with one question a lot? I often ask “Why” or a question like that. Not in the sense of “How did things get this way,” but “Why do things work like this?” For me, it’s a sense of curiosity. Here’s an example.

For years, when we drove places, I did not understand the orange balls on the wires. I would ask Mark, “Why are there orange balls on the wires?” The problem is that once we arrived, I never looked up the orange balls.

Finally, Mark discovered the truth, and told me. I almost wish he had concocted a whopper like the Family Secret Revealed. But the whopper is something more that I would do. If you need an answer to a question, I have one, whether or not it is correct. I always have an answer.

Mark tends to ask “What,” to understand the data. When we were trying to understand the orange ball mystery, he asked me many questions: where had I seen them, under what conditions had I seen them.

Some people like to ask to ask “When,” especially to understand if you need something by a certain time or to know if there is urgency.

Some people like to ask “Who,” to understand the people involved.

If you are solving a problem or doing an assessment, you need all of these questions. How else can you see the problem in its entirety?

What’s interesting to me is this: Where do you start with your questions? If you leave any of them out, you miss part of the problem.

If you know the 5 W’s of Journalism, the questions are: Why, How (did it happen), What, Where, When, and Who. (Yes, there are 6 questions, not 5.)

You can start with any question. Just don’t stop there. You need to fill in the rest of the picture, the rest of the story.

Let’s discuss these questions. If you looked at the wikipedia article, you noticed that I changed the order of the questions. That’s because some of the questions are open questions and some are closed.

The Why, How, and What questions are open questions. You can’t answer them with a one-word answer. You need to explain your answer. The Where, When, and Who questions are closed questions. They are fact-based, and allow you to find the data, but the data is “just the facts, ma’am.” No explanation needed.

It’s not that open questions are good and closed questions are bad. They are different. If you only asked one type of questions, you would not collect all the data. That would be unfortunate—either way.

If you only ask open questions, you don’t acquire the basic fact data. If you want police shows on TV, you notice that the cops ask the closed questions all the time. It’s a good thing. It’s those details that allow them to solve the cases. If you only ask closed questions, you don’t understand the motivations, the meaning behind why people do what they do. That’s bad, because people are such interesting, complex beings.

This week, dear adaptable problem-solvers, your question of the week is: What questions do you use to solve problems?


Does This Enhance My Life?

When we were purging the house, I asked the question, “Does this thing enhance my life?” It was a good question to see if I wanted to keep or eliminate whatever I was holding.

It’s not quite the same question as “Is Anyone Using This?” That’s a question from the outside. “Does This Enhance My Life?” s a question from inside you. For me, this can be more difficult to answer.

backscratcherBack when I was 16, I tore the ligaments in my right ankle, and required surgery to repair them. I don’t know how they do it now, but back then, I was in a cast for months. Someone gave me a backscratcher to scratch the skin inside my cast. I still have that darn thing.

I have not had a cast in years. This backscratcher no longer enhances my life.

Now, it’s time for deeper introspection.

As a human, you own your life. Does the work you do enhance your life or detract from it? If your work does not enhance your life, is it time to change your work?

If you write, does your writing enhance your life? If not, is it time to change how or what you write?

Does the music you listen to enhance your life? I listen to music as I write. Is it working for you or not? Is it it time to change it? For years, I listened to a particular playlist. Suddenly, I lost interest in that playlist. I changed the playlist and I became happier. I also became faster with my writing.

If you work with a team at work, and something is off, you might ask, “Do we have a team unjeller?” If you have a team unjeller, you know it. Conversation stops when that person enters the room. You have choices when you have a team unjeller. I wrote a management myth about it, I Can Save Everyone. But you have choices about your actions. You always do, whether your management chooses to act or not.

Change is messy. Change comes with a cost. But, what’s the alternative?

A life that other people select for you. Or, a life you select by default. That doesn’t fit for me. I want to be consciously in charge of my life. For me, it’s the fill my gas tank metaphor.

So, I will keep asking, “Does this enhance my life?” When I ask that, I am in charge. I am the one making the decisions. I, not other people, am responsible for my life. And, that’s the way I want it.

I’m throwing out the backscratcher.

My fellow adaptable problem solvers, that is the question of the week. You can choose again. Look inside, and ask yourself, “Does this enhance my life?”

How Do You Matter?

In previous questions of the week, I’ve been focused outward, on the system. In this question, I invite you to focus inward.

How do you matter, to yourself, and to others?

We don’t ask ourselves this question enough. Too often, we suffer from Imposter Syndrome, where we think we are not good enough. Sure, we might not be good enough. But, I bet you are.

There are always people who are smarter, thinner, faster, more of whatever than you are. Always. That is irrelevant.

You have your abilities. You can write your story, in your way. You can teach your workshop, in your way. You can give your talk, in your way. You can develop, test, whatever it is you do, in your way. You can coach, manage, parent, everything you do, in your way. As long as you do it to the best of your abilities, and as long as you keep learning, you are not an imposter.

You matter. The question is: do you know it?

I am fortunate. I write an email newsletter, the Pragmatic Manager, and sometimes people tell me that my newsletter matters. I receive external validation. Gotta tell you, I love it. The newsletter I write for this blog is new, so people haven’t told me yet. I’m ready to wait. I also haven’t designed this site so that the newsletter has its own page. I’m working on it.

In Manage Your Job Search, I have a section about managing Impostor Syndrome when you look for a job. Because maintaining your self esteem when you look for a job is critical.

As an adaptable problem solver, you need the resilience and self-esteem to know that you matter. You need to know how you matter.

When you acknowledge that you do matter, you build your self-esteem and your resilience. You use your growth mindset. You build your support network. Good things come back to you.

Here’s a little homework over the next week, if you are willing to take it. Every day, ask yourself, “What did I do today that mattered?” Don’t think it has to be big. Here are things I did in the past week, large and small:

  • Made the bed on the days I was the last one out of the bed. This matters to us, because we like a made bed.
  • I went to the gym twice in the past week and I did my home exercise program each day. I will be happy to report my progress to my physical therapists.
  • Provided brief email coaching to past clients. (I was happy about the coaching and the brevity.)
  • I chose the pillows for our family room couch. Mark bought them.
  • Wrote several thousand words for my program management book.
  • Wrote and published my email newsletter.
  • Received several comments about the email newsletter, and said, “Thank you.” I have had a difficult time in the past accepting compliments.
  • Provided email coaching for writers on their articles-in-progress for agileconnection.com. The people told me they appreciated the comments. (Let me know if you would like to write for us.)
  • Made dinner a couple of nights. Okay, it was eggs. Still, I cooked. Mark didn’t have to. Cooking in the evening, as opposed to during the day is more difficult for me. I was happy that I could, that we didn’t go out for dinner, and that Mark didn’t make my dinner.

Do you see that it’s not the magnitude of the work? It’s about the effect of what you do.

Dear adaptable problem solvers, your question this week is: How do you matter? Don’t wait for other people to tell you. Do your homework and discover for yourself. If you are willing, please share in the comments. I know, this takes courage and vulnerability.

How Do I Start Something When I Don’t Know How?

I often discover that I want to start things that I have no idea how to do. Does that ever happen to you?

When I wanted to learn needlepoint back in high school, it was easy. I learned that from a book. I made several needlepoints. I practiced until I got good. I mastered it. I got bored. I moved on to other things :-)

Now, the things I want to do are a little different. They tend to be more intellectually challenging for me to master. They tend to be things such as becoming my own publisher for my books. I’m slowly but surely getting a handle on that. I have a developmental editor, a copy editor, a layout person, and an indexer. I’m not sure if I have made the best choices on covers. I’m still working on that. I have a cover designer, and I’m working on a “look” for my covers.

I have these audio files from my Manage Your Job Search celebration. I have no idea how to host them “in the cloud.” (At least I know that I want to!) Where do I put the audio files? How do I link to them? At least I have the questions. (The original recordings are horrible. I needed to re-record them.)

But, sometimes you don’t even have the questions. How do you start then?

We all have problems like these that we want to solve. The question is this: how do we start?

stepsTake a step. Experiment. Get a little feedback. Incorporate that feedback. Take another step.

You might have to do some research to take that first step. However, if you stay in research mode, you never take that first step. You’re stuck. You need to step. Even if that step is small.

You can manage the risks for that small step. You can say, “This is a beta,” or something like that. When you manage the risks, you manage your vulnerability and emotional resilience.

If you don’t take that first step, you will never know what you are capable of. And that would be a shame, wouldn’t it?

You can start things where you don’t know if you can do them. You can. This is part of living with and adapting to change. It’s part of being an adaptable problem solver.

Take that first step. Until you do, you have no idea what you are capable of.

Dear adaptable problem solvers, this week’s question of the week is: How do I start something when I don’t know how? I hope I have provided you some ideas.