I was sitting on the wall, chatting with Eddie, a colleague, at the Gaylord mega hotel in Nashville. I’m at the Agile 2013 conference. I recognized the female gardener as she walked by and greeted her. She asked if the Eddie, the gentleman sitting next to me was my son.
I was nonplussed, surprised, and unable to respond for the moment. Eddie on the other hand said, “No, we’re friends.”
We chatted for a few minutes and that was that. Eddie and I continued our discussion about agile program management.
I do realize I look older than my 30- and 40-something colleagues. I am barely old enough to be their mother. Since I don’t dye my hair, I look my age. Since I use a walker or a cane, I look like a little old lady.
Okay. Here’s the deal. If you want to be thought of as young, sit with me at a conference. Someone will think you are my child. At least, if you are a man.
I still think this is nuts. But it seems to be the reality. I thought I was just middle aged-looking. (Or, maybe Mark is wrong. 50 is not the new 30.) But, maybe not.
Remember, on the inside, we all look out from young eyes. No matter how old we are on the outside, we feel young on the inside. My internal age ranges from about 6 because I like knock-knock jokes to about 25. But I definitely do not feel as if I am past 50. Nope, no way, no how.
Don’t get me started on how tall I feel, either. I am always surprised by how short I am. Inside, I’m at least 6 feet tall. Maybe even taller. I never understand why I can’t reach the dishes in the cupboards.
I feel like a vibrant young woman. Clearly, I don’t look like one. Vibrant? Yes. Young? I guess not.
What am I going to do?
- Work on my belly fat. Yes, I have decided that the real issue is that my belly fat is the root of all evil. It’s not my gray hair. (Oh, stop laughing. I can hear you from here.) Have you looked at older people? The older people have belly fat. That’s it. It’s got to come off. I have a plan. I just have to be home for the plan to work.
- I don’t have a number two, which is a problem. I’m not willing to dye my hair. That is way too much maintenance. It’s not my walker or my cane. Besides, I can’t do anything about the walker or the cane.
- Ignore it. Yeah, that works, too.
I still have work to do on agile program management. I have five or six other books in the pipeline. I have way too much work to do to give up. I’m not done yet.
Okay, when I say, “I’m not done yet,” this is actually #4, applying the growth mindset (but not to my belly!!). This is saying, “I have learning to accomplish, I have growth. I can learn things.”
My question for you today is: How old do you feel on the inside? Today could be feisty, so I might only be about 18 or 19 :-) Let’s have a feisty day today.
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